I Love You!
I found out something one day, something very deep and personal. I was going to draw something, and I had no problems with that…until someone asked could they see it. I got agitated, mumbling every excuse under the sun to reach a no. And then I saw it, the only thing that changed was my thoughts of being ‘judged’ on how the drawing was. So I looked deeper, and deeper…until I realised my upbringing was judged often, and in fact it wasn’t even the ‘judging’ but the rejection I felt because I was being treated in some way to make me feel so badly about myself. That feeling of being unloved because I felt I wasn’t good enough.
There are a million ways to that place, but all come back to that last sentence. See those actions from where they truly come from and in that understanding we can let them go. It is the thoughts of a child carried on into adult hood…until we understand. And realise it was only ever those feelings of not being good enough, being unloved, that we think we are that person and those doubts ever coming with us. Until we understand it was only ever that person we loved and looked up to who treated us this way…felt exactly the same way and mirror what they too had been taught in ‘their’ upbringing from their hurt.
The next time we get into a distressed state or argument…stop…and say ‘I love you’. Regardless if its your partner, child or the milkman. Usually the shock brings silence, but even if it doesn’t…you have stopped ‘you’ from following your inner child’s fears. Broken a lifetime of reaction to this or that…and begun a new journey. Something so much free’er and healing…and a truth that we push down, now allowed out in a new light to play.
Ahem…but just be careful around the milkman for a while 🤣❤️🙏
Great advice, Mark, but yes, be careful saying that to the milkman. It could cause a whole new problem, lol. I think the mess of our childhoods might go away if we realize our parents and other adults just did their best even if it was their worst. I think we have to become our own parent and give ourselves what was missing in our childhood. This sounds crazy but it has worked for me.
Yes indeed Michele, it will work for us. Our childhood was only ever what we were taught by those we love and look up to, hence why their actions hurt us so much. But they too are only doing what they were taught, it can’t be helped. But truthfully, I think it has purpose or otherwise how would we feel sadness…so that we can then understand and fully appreciate happiness when it comes along. This world is full of opposites simply so we can understand…us…and the love that sits patiently inside waiting for us to open further and further in those very wisdom’s they create. Great comment kind lady, and thank you for sharing the love that you are 🤗❤️🙏
I’m giggling at the last line, especially as I don’t have a milkman, but I understand the implications! LOL I love you – so powerful – know that you are soooo loved Mark! ❤️🙏 💖
As I love you too Yvonne. Such an easy thing with that heart of yours. It has built much empathy and compassion on this journey of yours and can speak those words well. And yes, sometimes those humans are not sure how to deal with those words that heal and set them free. But…I thank you for sharing yours kind lady 🤗❤️🙏
This is such a beautiful reflection, and above all, a lovely invitation to look behind our reactions rather than judging ourselves for them. Understanding where some of our wounds come from doesn’t erase them, but it can gradually help us stop letting them take control. And I really love the idea of replacing a reaction with three simple words: “I love you.”
As for the milkman… I think I’ll wait a little before trying that one! 😂
A lovely comment kind lady. And yes, our reactions are just that. From what ‘we’ are and our ability to live from those levels we understand. Time and experience slowly gives that understanding as we see ourselves in others and feeling those things that still control us. Eventually reaching a point where we’ve had enough and we wish to go beyond them.
And yes, those three little words a very powerful. Even if for just a time out. As for the milkman, hopefully you don’t have too many arguments with that gentleman. It’ll have the neighbors gossiping 🤣❤️🙏